“Oh my goodness! I’m feeling so emotional / tired / hungry / cranky and I don’t know why!”
Anyone else ever say that and then your monthly friend visits you and suddenly everything makes sense? After a few days of misery, the world seems brighter, and those problems you were having last week disappear?
But do you know why? You would think that after years and years of the same monthly cycle we would have it figured out by now. But I can speak from experience that many of us don’t! We know that we feel different during different weeks of the month, but we simply chalk it up to “hormones” and leave it at that.
However, there is FREEDOM to understanding you cycle, knowing how your body is working, and then understanding how to schedule your life with your cycle so you are working WITH your body and not against it!
We are ALL learning here. This may seem totally overwhelming to you at first, but don’t worry! As we dive further into specific hormones and supporting those hormones, everything will start to make more sense. 🙌🏼
Your Menstrual Cycle is a roughly four week span of time where three key hormones – estrogen, testosterone, and progesterone – rise and fall in a specific pattern. Depending on the level of these hormones, they impact your mood, energy, libido, sleep quality, food cravings, and health. However, since it is a pattern every month we can learn how to support our bodies during each part of the cycle, taking advantage of high energy days and resting on days when our body needs to work.
The first day of your menstrual cycle is the first day of your period. The period usually lasts 3-7 days, and most period pains are the worst during the first few days.
Estrogen is at its lowest during the first day of your period and begins to rise after. This is why after the first achy, fatiguing part of your period, you tend to notice a boost in energy, mood, and productivity. It is important that you allow your body to rest as much as possible until your estrogen has risen.
You tend to be more outgoing as your estrogen rises and become interested in your favorite activities again. The rise in estrogen also causes a slight appetite-suppression making it easier to choose healthy foods and smaller portions.
Day 1 to Ovulation (which is typically around Day 14). Estrogen and Testosterone continue to rise until they peak. You continue to be upbeat, outgoing, chattier, and confident. You will have sharper brain skills and more creativity.
You will also become more romantically inclined as you have an increase in libido. You will have a higher self confidence in your appearance! Others will notice this too, as the rise in estrogen is actually boosting your attractiveness.
Pain also becomes more tolerable, which makes uncomfortable activities, such as a hard workout, easier on your body. Take advantage of this surge in energy by going on a day hike, scheduling your long runs, or cleaning the house from top to bottom. As the testosterone peaks during the later part of the week, you will find yourself more competitive and impulsive. Plan a game night with friends or surprise your significant other with a sexy date! This rise in testosterone makes orgasms more intense and easier to achieve. 😘
This happens around the middle of your cycle, averaging to about day 14. It is said that you are irresistible during your ovulation phase, that people cannot tell you no. This is a great time to try something new, take a job interview, ask for a promotion, etc.
Remember this in your relationships as well. Take this time to deepen friendships, as you will have the energy and desire to invest in others. And also make sure to block out some time in your maxed out schedule to devote to your significant other. You will feel very attracted to one another, and this is the perfect time to bond closer together.
You will also have tons of natural energy. Keep this in mind and choose a healthy diet with low carbs. Your body is needing more protein and healthy fats to support your muscles after a time of high activity.
From after Ovulation to the beginning of your next Menstrual Cycle. This tends to be a very difficult phase for many women. Let’s break it up into two weeks.
Early Luteal Phase – Estrogen plunges, and then rises again. Testosterone drops. Progesterone rises. Even if you don’t know what these hormones mean yet – you can tell there is a lot of movement happening! Some women experience pre-PMS with the influx of hormonal changes, particularly the falling estrogen. This may include irritability, fatigue, and pessimism or a down mood.
You will begin to feel more introverted and more comfortable as a homebody. Fill your day will low energy organizing, cleaning, and cooking. Don’t plan on redecorating or redesigning rooms, as the rise and drop in estrogen may make big decisions cause anxiety and stress on your body, but straighten up the junk drawer or go through your closet. Don’t make big plans with friends, as you will be tempted to cancel them or feel anxious about going out.
Late Luteal Phase – Then Estrogen plunges again. Progesterone also reaches its peak and falls. This causes PMS. You may experience moodiness, sadness, irritability, muscle aches, insomnia, headaches, fatigue and/or a variety of other PMS symptoms.
The low energy and low estrogen causes you to crave high-carb and high-sugar foods. Don’t feel guilt for treating yourself, but have a plan so that you don’t overindulge. You may notice a slight rise in libido, but difficulty “getting in the mood.” Make sure that your partner knows this, so that you can devote more time to intimate activities. This is also the Phase when most women suffer from low confidence and self doubt. Never make big decisions during your Luteal Phase. Take care of your body during this phase. The lack of sleep may lower your Immune System. (Ever been sick AND on your period at the same time? 🙄) Drink plenty of water and eat all those healthy meals you made during your early Luteal Phase.
Feel like you understand the craziness of your Cycle a bit more now? What is one thing you learned? What is one thing you are going to change during your month to work WITH your Cycle?
last night I was busy so I didn’t blow-dry my hair after my shower like usual which means crazy, wavy hair today. I tamed it down a bit did my make-up, wore a new shirt today and then said “babe, be honest … does my hair look okay or all wacky?” he said “I did notice it looked a bit wild today” – I appreciated the honesty and went with a ponytail.
Grayson got a sad look on his face and said “Mama, I like your hair long – can you take the hair thing out and leave it down” – I did & smiled.
When Lucas came back to the kitchen, I told him what happened. Grayson then said “Dada, I like Mama’s hair like that. Can you not tell her it looks crazy” then smiled at me like I was the prettiest Mama in the world.
Gah. I love that kid. Embrace your ‘hot mess’ selves, Ladies … to someone YOU ARE the most beautiful woman in the world.
:: I am not crying::
How’s this for real life. I, Rachelle, I am a complete mess right now.
It has been one hell of a year. Becoming a Mom of two, working hard on trying to building a business (two actually), working two positions at my day job: full-time, maintaining a home comfortable for my family and so much more… I feel like I have lost direction.
I am spinning. I am exhausted. Throughout all of these changes I have put ME/MYSELF on the back burner most days. I truly feel like I am living in survival mode and failing.
I am not writing this for attention or a ‘poor you’ response. I am not sharing this to make my life feel so much busier than anyone else’s. I share because I know I’m not alone. I share because I need to broaden my network of people that have gone through this phase and made it out. People that are currently going through it and hiding it like I do – every day. I also need my parent friends to know, YOU are not alone. This shit is hard – it is so very hard.
We are all doing the best we can … to get out the door every day on time, sitting in our offices from 9-5 only to rush home in traffic to get the kids. To make dinner that sometimes doesn’t get eaten. To clean our houses that never look that way. To dry all the tears including our own. To not loose our effing binds. To breathe.
I know I am not alone even though it feels like it. This is just a really, really, really tough chapter. I am in survival mode. I take on more than I can do most days because it is in my DNA to try and perfect too much. I don’t say ‘no’ because I fear I will disappoint someone. I know I don’t show up to the parties, the girls nights, the weekends away, the play dates – its not that I don’t want to – its just – that I don’t want to. It’s not you, right now, its me.
If you’re a part of my life … please give me grace, maybe even advice. I am trying the best I can to find balance, which feels more like trying to take a deep breath under water. Don’t worry – I am okay – I am just really exhausted & don’t really know what it is that I need right now to find balance. I love this life that I have been blessed with I just need to find ME again so I can love it a little bit harder.
My family and I recently came down with the stomach flu. Twenty-Four (24) long hours of getting sick + 24 hours of recovery. ROUGH.
Not being able to keep anything, including water down is extremely rough on the body. We needed hydration and healing … in walks electrolytes. Time to put down the sports drinks and pedialyte. Here is a healthy alternative.
Pedialyte and Gatorade are two of my pet peeves. The purpose of both of these drinks is to replenish electrolytes in the body. First off, does everyone know what electrolytes are and why we need them? The word electrolyte has become a term thrown around a lot in marketing but most people are unclear on what they actually are. In the human body, electrolytes include sodium, potassium, calcium, bicarbonate, magnesium, chloride, hydrogen phosphate, and hydrogen carbonate, or in other words they are minerals.
Minerals are very important for good health. Yes pedialyte and gatorade both contain (synthetic) “electrolytes” but they come along with a handful of unnecessary artificial ingredients, sweeteners, and colors – none of which are going to help you or your child recover from an illness, and could even cause other problems.
Unfortunately, pedialyte is the go-to product recommended by pediatricians for children who have a stomach virus or an illness that causes repeated vomiting to replenish lost minerals. The real truth is that it’s possibly the worst option and there are far better choices that can be made easily with ingredients you likely already have at home.
Let’s take a look at what is actually in this product. Here are the ingredients in Pedialyte Strawberry: Water, dextrose, citric acid, potassium citrate, sodium chloride, sodium citrate, natural flavor, sucralose, acesulfame potassium, zinc gluconate, RED 40, BLUE 1
After water you’ll see dextrose, a sweetener that is likely GMO, then you’ll see the minerals, followed by natural flavor…
I have to stop and talk about natural flavor for a moment. Natural flavor seems pretty harmless when you read it but don’t be fooled, it’s not. Natural flavor can be a derivative of anything that was once part of a “natural” ingredient. It’s the food companies way of throwing things in there without having to put them on the label. If you have ANY type of food allergy or sensitivity, avoid natural flavors, because you’ll never know exactly what it contains.
After natural flavors you’ll see sucralose which is Splenda, a toxic artificial sweetener, and lastly you’ll see red 40 and blue 1, artificial colors that have been linked to behavioral problems in children. Yikes. Now you can see why this product bothers me.
All of the minerals in pedialyte and gatorade can be found in foods and there are plenty of ways to get them in without using these artificial products.
Here is my go-to recipe … we use it during sicknesses, after strenuous workouts, long beach days, for hangovers – yeah, I said it … those too!
HEALTHY ELECTROLYTE DRINK
1/4 tsp Baking Soda
1/4 tsp Himalayan Sea Salt
1 dropper Mineral Essence💦
1 tsp Agave
2 drops Orange Vitality EO (optional)
1 QT Water
*adapted from Melissa Poepping’s Chemical Free Home Book
Last night as I ran through the nightly routine of cooking dinner, cleaning up, prepping for the next day – I made myself STOP. I made myself slow down and rearrange the steps I made. I forced my brain and body to move with more intention and I stared at my children & got lost for a moment.
I reminded myself that these not so tiny anymore humans that need me so bad, right now, will not be so needy one day and I will need them. I picked up my toddler, placed him on the counter and asked him to help me. He cut all the grapes that I had just washed. He cut them with a smile & pride. Without being asked or encouraged to, fed his little sister as she watched from her highchair. Looking back at last night – THOSE are the moments. The big moments – the ones that take center-stage in the memory bank.
I am a Mom. I am trying and on most days I feel like I am trying so damn hard to figure it out. Just like you. Over the past week I made a promise to myself, my family, my kids … to start slowing down and being better. calmer. Filled with more grace & passion and less irritation & hurry. As a Mom, there are things we go through that play factors on how we feel and act. Things we don’t always talk about or recognize.
I just crossed the 10-month mark of breastfeeding my second baby. This is a prideful accomplishment for me but also one that brings a lot of baggage & let me tell you what … it isn’t designer.
Breastfeeding is a wonderful privilege that my body has blessed me with the ability to do. I was able to breastfeed our son for 16 months. I felt proud, happy, so good & yet, so broken.
There is a dark side to breastfeeding that a lot of women don’t openly talk about. The part of the journey that causes emotional ups and downs (way downs). The sleepless nights because that sweet baby only wants Mama and what she can provide. The days when you are in tears, ugly, can’t breathe tears because your body senses fear and stress & decides not to produce enough that day. The feedings that end because you’ve been bit, pinched, hit – yeah, that happens. And then there is the part that hurts the most … the hormones that are so viciously cruel. They are the mean girl of the world. They come out of nowhere and truly make you feel like a worthless human. I know that may sound extreme BUT if you are a breastfeeding Mama or even a Husband that has seen your Wife throughout this journey you too know this is real.
Y’all – I have recently cried tears that made me feel like every ounce of air was being sucked from body. Ask me why – my answer: I don’t know. I just felt broken.
My body was and is still (but better) stressed and overwhelmed and ready to end this journey. We are two months away from One Year which is my goal for my daughter’s breastfeeding journey. Last week I was really stressed about it all – my body felt the fear and reacted. It reacted by not producing. As a working out of the home, Mom, I have to pump throughout the day in-order to provide for my daughter at daycare. I usually pump 4-6oz, per pump session – 3-times a day. Last week my body yielded 1-2oz. Do you know what this did to me? It wrecked me. It made me feel like I was failing. Like I was broken. Like I was doing something wrong. Now, I know this is not fact but in a moment of Mama Panic – I didn’t. I knew fear and pain and sadness.
I turned to my Husband because HE is my comfort. With tears in my eyes I sent him an email after a stressful morning in the house all because I was emotionally toxic and well, mean.
“I just feel broken babe. I hate how I feel. I think I need to stop breastfeeding or at least get formula this weekend and supplement a bottle or 2 a day. I feel so stressed out like my body is failing at this and its not a fun feeling. I am starting to hate this relationship (breastfeeding) between getting bit, not pumping enough, etc. I dont have enough milk to give her bottles Monday. I feel broken about it.”
This Man. This amazing, selfless, strong, keeps this ship afloat, man broke me with his response:
“I completely understand babe and i empathize with you. To hear about how many woman cant do it at all is a testament to you as a mother. Imagine the total number of ounces you have fed our kids over these years. How many bottles washed… How many hours spent feeding or pumping… How much money you have saved us. Its super hero status babe!! Thank you for all of it!! I don’t blame you for wanting it to end. And honestly she is so close to being one I can’t imagine it making much difference stopping at 10 months or 12.”
Be still my heart – after reading that my heart calmed and my body felt a sense of safety like no matter what I decided to do – everything was going to okay!
I did buy formula which she didn’t care for. Over the next few days my body, the one that kicked my ass the week before, decided to return to normal – with me – and started producing 4-7oz a pump session. Moral of the story. Take care of your mental health to keep your physical health in-line. That and marry a Man that has the ability to make you feel like you can do anything. p.s. I love you.
Are you a breastfeeding Mom? What do you do to take care of yourself? Both Mentally and Physically?
List of questions to fall in love as seen in the New York Times
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
THIS KIT IS THE BEST! YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!
The PSK comes with 11 of the most loved and commonly used essential oil singles and blends that can support most every system and function in the body. It also comes with the diffuser of your choice, 2 NingXia Red packets, samples and access to our amazing community to help you fall in love with your oils.
Thieves – Immune supporting boss. Often imitated and never duplicated!
Lavender – Versatile but best known for being relaxing.
Purification – A blend to diffuse away the stink. Bye stinky trashcan and sneakers.
Copaiba – A powerful support of the body’s natural inflammatory response. Teething babies BFF.
DiGize – Tummy support. It’s there for you before meals, after meals, and in times of trouble.
Peppermint – One to keep with you. Energizing, soothing and versatile!
PanAway – This one is incredible for post-workout massages/baths or at the end of a long day.
Lemon – Purifying and uplifting, this one can make you happy while you clean all the things!
R.C. – For serious respiratory support, R.C. has got you covered.
Frankincense – This one has the Jesus stamp of approval and is amazing for skin (and much more).
Stress Away – The name says it all. Ahhhhhhh………
In case one of these oils happens to go out of stock, you will receive one of the flex oils in it’s place: Lemongrass, Orange, Citrus Fresh, AromaEase, or Tea Tree
THE STARTER KIT vs BUYING OILS INDIVIDUALLY
- The kit is $160 but is would cost more than $300 to buy it all individually.
- The PSK gets you a 24% discount for life and tons of other great perks!
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WHY GO WITH YOUNG LIVING OVER ALL THE OTHER OIL BRANDS OUT THERE?
Young Living is the ONLY company that has complete control over their essential oils from preparing the ground for planting seeds to putting the seal on your bottle and shipping it off. YL owns their own distilleries and has perfected the art of distillation. They do seriously rigourous testing of their oils to be sure they are up to their standards. They are beyond organic and the purest of the pure. There is no better peace of mind than that. These are the only oils I will ever use on my family.
WILL I GO THROUGH THEM SUPER FAST?
Don’t let the size of the bottles fool you! A 5ml bottle contains about 85 drops of essential oils and each drop is powerful! How quickly you go through your bottle depends on how much you are using them, so it’s going to depend on the person. Here’s a quick guide to give you a rough idea of usage:
- AVERAGE OF 1 DROP FOR TOPICAL APPLICATION
- AVERAGE OF 1 DROP FOR INTERNAL USE
- AVERAGE OF 3-4 DROPS FOR THE DIFFUSER
CAN I USE OILS ON MY KIDS?
You sure can! Kids love oils! We can help you use them safely.
WILL I HAVE TO BUY OILS EVERY MONTH?
Nope! To maintain your wholesale membership, you only need to place a 50PV (about $50) order each year.
If you do fall in love with your oils and want to order monthly, Young Living has an amazing program that allows you to earn tons of free stuff! It’s basically a fully customizable “subscription box” with essential oils. Best thing ever!
WILL I HAVE TO SELL OILS?
Absolutely not! It is totally optional. But, if you do decide to help your friends and family get their own oils, we will be here to cheer you on!
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Can you believe there are only 70 days until Christmas!? I mean, I know we all do and say this every year but I don’t think I am alone when I say this one came up FAST!
If you are like me, you truly love giving gifts as much as you like receiving them! Part of my passion is creating that perfect gift. Over the weekend I designed a new mug for all my essential oil lovers: Drop it Like It’s Hot! Perfect for anyone that loves essential oils. This mug is the perfect Thieves Tea cup! You can order yours by clicking HERE. I will throw in FREE gift wrapping too! Just mention it in the Note to Seller section at checkout.
fun story about us …
Rewind our story by 9 years: 2008. Lucas and I had been on a handful of dates by this time. He invited me to come along to a volleyball tournament that he was playing in one weekend and mentioned that they start early and suggested that I spend the night to make it easier in the morning.
Ohmygoodnessss, first sleepover! He said “I will sleep on the couch” – I laughed and agreed & panicked. Not only was this the first sleepover, it was the first time I went to his place.
I packed my overnight bag + beach bag and nervously drove to his house. I finally settled my nerves (kinda) as I got closer … only to find that I was lost. Go figure. You guys, keep in mind this was before Siri/GPS was a thing. This was the good ‘ol, write down the directions, pick up the phone and call kind of date. I started to panic because one: I was going to be late (I hate being late); two: I was lost. So, I pulled off to the side of the road and called him … he didn’t pick up. I felt like I was going to puke. I gave it a minute and called back. Lucas must have been equally nervous that day because he was the one that gave me wrong directions! He realized he told me to turn left when I should have gone right.
[to this day, E V E R Y time I pass the intersection of Camino Real & Military Trail I think of this day]
I pulled up, parked my car, took a deeeeep breath & was greeted with a smile and a hug that I can still feel. I remember what he was wearing, how he smelled and the way the weather felt that day – this is the best part … I walked in the door and Banana Pancakes by Jack Johnson was on. It was one of those moments that became a building block to the beginning of us. My nerves were calmed and I felt “home”. When you know, you know. “Better Together” … still …. ten years later and I am happy to say he is still the only man I ever want to make Banana Pancakes for.
In 24’ish hours; Lucas and I will be at the Jack Johnson concert in West Palm Beach having the time of our life and adding to our memory bank. Never stop dating your Husband, never stop flirting with your Wife.
What is your favorite Jack Johnson song?