Last night as I ran through the nightly routine of cooking dinner, cleaning up, prepping for the next day – I made myself STOP. I made myself slow down and rearrange the steps I made. I forced my brain and body to move with more intention and I stared at my children & got lost for a moment.
I reminded myself that these not so tiny anymore humans that need me so bad, right now, will not be so needy one day and I will need them. I picked up my toddler, placed him on the counter and asked him to help me. He cut all the grapes that I had just washed. He cut them with a smile & pride. Without being asked or encouraged to, fed his little sister as she watched from her highchair. Looking back at last night – THOSE are the moments. The big moments – the ones that take center-stage in the memory bank.
I am a Mom. I am trying and on most days I feel like I am trying so damn hard to figure it out. Just like you. Over the past week I made a promise to myself, my family, my kids … to start slowing down and being better. calmer. Filled with more grace & passion and less irritation & hurry. As a Mom, there are things we go through that play factors on how we feel and act. Things we don’t always talk about or recognize.
I just crossed the 10-month mark of breastfeeding my second baby. This is a prideful accomplishment for me but also one that brings a lot of baggage & let me tell you what … it isn’t designer.
Breastfeeding is a wonderful privilege that my body has blessed me with the ability to do. I was able to breastfeed our son for 16 months. I felt proud, happy, so good & yet, so broken.
There is a dark side to breastfeeding that a lot of women don’t openly talk about. The part of the journey that causes emotional ups and downs (way downs). The sleepless nights because that sweet baby only wants Mama and what she can provide. The days when you are in tears, ugly, can’t breathe tears because your body senses fear and stress & decides not to produce enough that day. The feedings that end because you’ve been bit, pinched, hit – yeah, that happens. And then there is the part that hurts the most … the hormones that are so viciously cruel. They are the mean girl of the world. They come out of nowhere and truly make you feel like a worthless human. I know that may sound extreme BUT if you are a breastfeeding Mama or even a Husband that has seen your Wife throughout this journey you too know this is real.
Y’all – I have recently cried tears that made me feel like every ounce of air was being sucked from body. Ask me why – my answer: I don’t know. I just felt broken.
My body was and is still (but better) stressed and overwhelmed and ready to end this journey. We are two months away from One Year which is my goal for my daughter’s breastfeeding journey. Last week I was really stressed about it all – my body felt the fear and reacted. It reacted by not producing. As a working out of the home, Mom, I have to pump throughout the day in-order to provide for my daughter at daycare. I usually pump 4-6oz, per pump session – 3-times a day. Last week my body yielded 1-2oz. Do you know what this did to me? It wrecked me. It made me feel like I was failing. Like I was broken. Like I was doing something wrong. Now, I know this is not fact but in a moment of Mama Panic – I didn’t. I knew fear and pain and sadness.
I turned to my Husband because HE is my comfort. With tears in my eyes I sent him an email after a stressful morning in the house all because I was emotionally toxic and well, mean.
“I just feel broken babe. I hate how I feel. I think I need to stop breastfeeding or at least get formula this weekend and supplement a bottle or 2 a day. I feel so stressed out like my body is failing at this and its not a fun feeling. I am starting to hate this relationship (breastfeeding) between getting bit, not pumping enough, etc. I dont have enough milk to give her bottles Monday. I feel broken about it.”
This Man. This amazing, selfless, strong, keeps this ship afloat, man broke me with his response:
“I completely understand babe and i empathize with you. To hear about how many woman cant do it at all is a testament to you as a mother. Imagine the total number of ounces you have fed our kids over these years. How many bottles washed… How many hours spent feeding or pumping… How much money you have saved us. Its super hero status babe!! Thank you for all of it!! I don’t blame you for wanting it to end. And honestly she is so close to being one I can’t imagine it making much difference stopping at 10 months or 12.”
Be still my heart – after reading that my heart calmed and my body felt a sense of safety like no matter what I decided to do – everything was going to okay!
I did buy formula which she didn’t care for. Over the next few days my body, the one that kicked my ass the week before, decided to return to normal – with me – and started producing 4-7oz a pump session. Moral of the story. Take care of your mental health to keep your physical health in-line. That and marry a Man that has the ability to make you feel like you can do anything. p.s. I love you.
Are you a breastfeeding Mom? What do you do to take care of yourself? Both Mentally and Physically?
List of questions to fall in love as seen in the New York Times
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
THIS KIT IS THE BEST! YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!
The PSK comes with 11 of the most loved and commonly used essential oil singles and blends that can support most every system and function in the body. It also comes with the diffuser of your choice, 2 NingXia Red packets, samples and access to our amazing community to help you fall in love with your oils.
Thieves – Immune supporting boss. Often imitated and never duplicated!
Lavender – Versatile but best known for being relaxing.
Purification – A blend to diffuse away the stink. Bye stinky trashcan and sneakers.
Copaiba – A powerful support of the body’s natural inflammatory response. Teething babies BFF.
DiGize – Tummy support. It’s there for you before meals, after meals, and in times of trouble.
Peppermint – One to keep with you. Energizing, soothing and versatile!
PanAway – This one is incredible for post-workout massages/baths or at the end of a long day.
Lemon – Purifying and uplifting, this one can make you happy while you clean all the things!
R.C. – For serious respiratory support, R.C. has got you covered.
Frankincense – This one has the Jesus stamp of approval and is amazing for skin (and much more).
Stress Away – The name says it all. Ahhhhhhh………
In case one of these oils happens to go out of stock, you will receive one of the flex oils in it’s place: Lemongrass, Orange, Citrus Fresh, AromaEase, or Tea Tree
THE STARTER KIT vs BUYING OILS INDIVIDUALLY
- The kit is $160 but is would cost more than $300 to buy it all individually.
- The PSK gets you a 24% discount for life and tons of other great perks!
- Becoming a member of The Oily Community with a PSK gets you in on the fun of our private FB group with lots of encouragement and fun education from other oilers!
WHY GO WITH YOUNG LIVING OVER ALL THE OTHER OIL BRANDS OUT THERE?
Young Living is the ONLY company that has complete control over their essential oils from preparing the ground for planting seeds to putting the seal on your bottle and shipping it off. YL owns their own distilleries and has perfected the art of distillation. They do seriously rigourous testing of their oils to be sure they are up to their standards. They are beyond organic and the purest of the pure. There is no better peace of mind than that. These are the only oils I will ever use on my family.
WILL I GO THROUGH THEM SUPER FAST?
Don’t let the size of the bottles fool you! A 5ml bottle contains about 85 drops of essential oils and each drop is powerful! How quickly you go through your bottle depends on how much you are using them, so it’s going to depend on the person. Here’s a quick guide to give you a rough idea of usage:
- AVERAGE OF 1 DROP FOR TOPICAL APPLICATION
- AVERAGE OF 1 DROP FOR INTERNAL USE
- AVERAGE OF 3-4 DROPS FOR THE DIFFUSER
CAN I USE OILS ON MY KIDS?
You sure can! Kids love oils! We can help you use them safely.
WILL I HAVE TO BUY OILS EVERY MONTH?
Nope! To maintain your wholesale membership, you only need to place a 50PV (about $50) order each year.
If you do fall in love with your oils and want to order monthly, Young Living has an amazing program that allows you to earn tons of free stuff! It’s basically a fully customizable “subscription box” with essential oils. Best thing ever!
WILL I HAVE TO SELL OILS?
Absolutely not! It is totally optional. But, if you do decide to help your friends and family get their own oils, we will be here to cheer you on!
>>> TODAY ONLY : 10.24.2017 <<<
buy any set of roller bottles and/or roller bottle labels and be entered to gift the exact set to a friend – FREE!
NO LIMIT!! Just in time for your Make & Take Parties!
+ order must be placed no later than midnight, EST.
+ order must be placed and paid for to qualify.
+ to claim offer, place order through ETSY
+ name will be randomly drawn tomorrow morning (10.25)
+winner will be responsible to provide the gifted recipient’s name & address.
OFFER VALID ON ANY SIZE DECALS:
5ml, 10ml, 15ml, 2-16oz spray, etc. ANYTHING!
*mugs do not apply.
Can you believe there are only 70 days until Christmas!? I mean, I know we all do and say this every year but I don’t think I am alone when I say this one came up FAST!
If you are like me, you truly love giving gifts as much as you like receiving them! Part of my passion is creating that perfect gift. Over the weekend I designed a new mug for all my essential oil lovers: Drop it Like It’s Hot! Perfect for anyone that loves essential oils. This mug is the perfect Thieves Tea cup! You can order yours by clicking HERE. I will throw in FREE gift wrapping too! Just mention it in the Note to Seller section at checkout.
fun story about us …
Rewind our story by 9 years: 2008. Lucas and I had been on a handful of dates by this time. He invited me to come along to a volleyball tournament that he was playing in one weekend and mentioned that they start early and suggested that I spend the night to make it easier in the morning.
Ohmygoodnessss, first sleepover! He said “I will sleep on the couch” – I laughed and agreed & panicked. Not only was this the first sleepover, it was the first time I went to his place.
I packed my overnight bag + beach bag and nervously drove to his house. I finally settled my nerves (kinda) as I got closer … only to find that I was lost. Go figure. You guys, keep in mind this was before Siri/GPS was a thing. This was the good ‘ol, write down the directions, pick up the phone and call kind of date. I started to panic because one: I was going to be late (I hate being late); two: I was lost. So, I pulled off to the side of the road and called him … he didn’t pick up. I felt like I was going to puke. I gave it a minute and called back. Lucas must have been equally nervous that day because he was the one that gave me wrong directions! He realized he told me to turn left when I should have gone right.
[to this day, E V E R Y time I pass the intersection of Camino Real & Military Trail I think of this day]
I pulled up, parked my car, took a deeeeep breath & was greeted with a smile and a hug that I can still feel. I remember what he was wearing, how he smelled and the way the weather felt that day – this is the best part … I walked in the door and Banana Pancakes by Jack Johnson was on. It was one of those moments that became a building block to the beginning of us. My nerves were calmed and I felt “home”. When you know, you know. “Better Together” … still …. ten years later and I am happy to say he is still the only man I ever want to make Banana Pancakes for.
In 24’ish hours; Lucas and I will be at the Jack Johnson concert in West Palm Beach having the time of our life and adding to our memory bank. Never stop dating your Husband, never stop flirting with your Wife.
What is your favorite Jack Johnson song?
OCTOBER is my favorite mponth of the year! I love everything about it! Including these amazing FREEBIES from Young Living!
When you order 300 PV, you will receive:
🍁 Super C chewables 90 count
Vitamin C for the win. Super C combines Orange essential oil with a blend of camu camu, acerola, cherry, and rose hips fruit powder to create a super powerful immune-supporting supplement. Together, these ingredients give us polyphenols, carotenoids, and optimal amounts of vitamin C.
It’s chewable, it’s convenient, it’s what you’ll be loading up on throughout fall and winter. Take 1-3 daily, or as needed. Pro tip: it’s always good to have food in your belly when you chew ’em up.
🍁Breathe Again Roll-On
We love roll-ons for how easy they are! And as we get into the swing of school, sports, holidays, and being busy busy busy, it’s the best to have something in your purse / car / anywhere that you can just roll right on!
It has oils that pack a punch like Peppermint, Myrtle, Copaiba, and FOUR types of Eucalyptus. Great for opening the lungs, breathing easy all day long, using before, during and after a workout.. the list goes on. Here’s a fun one: Apply Breathe Again to your back, neck, or chest before a steamy shower for an invigorating aromatic experience. WOO!
You likely got this one in your Premium Starter Kit, and if you’ve ever used DiGize, you KNOW how incredible it is. Sure, it’s not everyone’s favorite smell, but its benefits are worth it, AM I RIGHT?! I order DiGize regularly, so I’m excited to be getting it for free this month and to put my PV into something else fun! It’s one of those that you never, ever, ever want to go without. I love when tummies are happy, and I will fight to keep them that way! DiGize helps me to do just that.
This is a bonus you’ll only receive when doing your monthly Essential Rewards order! Not on ER yet? Check out this video and HOP ON IT, friend! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ThONHudUOY
Raven is a cleansing blend of Ravintsara, Lemon, Wintergreen, Peppermint, and Eucalyptus Radiata. Raven creates a cooling sensation when applied topically to the chest and throat. It’s especially wonderful for ages 6+ and one of my top choices for use in the AromaDome (like a small tent for your head so you can breathe oils in quickly and powerfully. Crazy cool.)
5ml Cinnamon Bark Vitality
Another bonus for your Essential Rewards order! This one is all about healthy digestion and a healthy immune system. You’ll find it in Thieves, Inner Defense, and Abundance, to name a few. Add a drop or two to your NingXia Red for a “hot shot. Dilute 1–2 drops in a vegetarian gel capsule and take as a dietary supplement to support your regular digestion. Take a banana smoothie to a sweet new level with a drop of Cinnamon Bark Vitality. Use a drop to spice up your hot cereal. Substitute Cinnamon Bark Vitality in any recipe that calls for ground cinnamon. We can’t get enough!
At 250 PV, you will receive Breathe Again and DiGize. When on your ER order, you’ll also get the Raven and Cinnamon Bark Vitality.
At 190 PV, you will receive DiGize. When on your ER, Raven and Cinnamon Bark Vitality will come too!
At 100 PV on ER, you’ll get Cinnamon Bark Vitality.
I don’t know about you, but I am going for that 300 PV on ER! Let’s stay well! Happy October!!!
Are you sick of spending time and money trying to find the perfect face regimen with no results? I was too!
If you are anything like me, you are constantly on the hunt for the perfect face product(s). The perfect cleanser, the perfect toner, moisturizer, blemish control and magic fix it all potion. I spent an embarrassing amount of time and money looking for the perfect product. I would search online: what is the best product to use for dull skin – DIY face toner – Mature Skin (that one is still a hard pill to swallow – ha).
FINALLY, after almost 35 years (still can’t believe I will be 35 in a few weeks), I have found that everything I ever needed, I had the whole time. Ready for the magic trick?
Good ol’ H2O. Yep. That is it. Water!
I know what you might be thinking [WTF is she talking about] … let me explain:
Two weeks ago my face was pissed off at me. It was dry, dull, broken out and just looked like crap. I had a bathroom full of washes, serums and toners but nothing, not even patience was working. So, I turned to water and a microfiber cloth. Nothing fancy, just a clean microfiber cloth & tap water. During my endless hunt for great skin, I came across a few articles claiming that noting is needed other than a good diet & simplified cleansing. I figured, I had nothign to loose! I got a clean microfiber cloth wet with warm water and began wiping my face, removing my makeup. I ran the cloth back under the water, flipped it to the clean side and repeated until my make-up was off and my face felt clean.
I followed this with my nightly facial essential oils (will list below) and prayed for the best. When I woke up, my face felt clean still so I started to trust the process and repeated this cleansing method that morning with a new, clean cloth & just water. I then did this every day for two weeks … no soap whatsoever. My results …
My skin is happy! It is glowing, it is blemish free and I am noticing that my pores are shrinking on my nose (this has always been a problem area for me). So, if you too are unhappy with your skin; ditch the bottles and reach for some good ol’ H2O!!
Remove make-up with water and microfiber cloth.
Tone. I use a pre-made blend of equal parts ACV (Braggs) + Distilled H2O and a few drops of Rosemary Essential Oil & Tea Tree Essential Oil in a 2oz spray bottle.
Moisturize. I do a two part moisturizing based on my skin type (combo dry + oily. issue: clogged pores on nose and chin)
A small dab of Sheerlume’ + 1 drop each: Frankinsence; Patchouli & Lavender Essential Oil. Followed by five drops of a pre-blened mix of Roseseed Hip Oil + Hempseed Oil + Jojoba Oil
STEP 4 (AS NEEDED):
When and if I have a blemish, I reach for Manuka or Tea Tree and Spot treat. Nine out of Ten times I will walk-up and the spot will be GONE!
I would love to hear from you if you give this method a try! Happy Cleansing!
“The greatest source of unhappiness comes from inside.” ― Jim Rohn
what is it that is holding you back from being happy? are you the kind of person that always sees the downside vs. the greatness in a situation? do you complain that it is too hot outside or are you thankful that the sun is shining?
sounds easy right? I know it isn’t like flipping a light switch & all of a sudden you are happy, I get it BUT you can change the way you view life and in time, your small changes will create a large impact within yourself.
for those of you that are parents; you are familiar with the whole bedtime ‘routine’ – wake-up ‘routine’ – after school ‘routine’ … but what about YOU?
do you have a routine for yourself to create a path for your day? do you have a routine to unwind, unload and give thanks?
I do. and let me tell you, it helps so much!
wash face + apply essential oils:
great for balance. if you are a female, you need this magical potion. if you are a male and have a female in your life, she needs it. you will thank me. I promise it will change you.
I then proceed with the Great Day Protocol, formulated by Gary Young.
Valor Essential Oil, also known for balancing the body’s electrical energy. Apply a few drops in the palm of your left hand, gently rub your palms together, and bring your oiled palms to your nose and inhale. Set your intention for the day, utilizing the grounding properties of this blend. Next, put some Valor on the back of your neck and then place another drop on the inside of your wrists and hold your wrist together for a moment. As you hold the pulse points of your wrists together, again breathe in the oil blend and take a moment to be still while affirming your intentions for the day. What state of being would you like to cultivate? What do you want to accomplish today?
Place a drop of Harmony on your left palm, rub your palms together, inhaling the oil blend and place some Harmony on your solar plexus, just below your sternum, and above your belly button. This is your third chakra, or your “will” energy center. As you inhale the aroma, use the affirmation, “Let my will harmonize and align to the greater good for all I connect with today.” You may have a specific intention for harmonizing with your customers, your co-workers, family, friends, etc.
This blend is one of Young Living’s signature essential oils. Place a drop of Joy into your left palm, rub your hands together, and slowly inhale the scent. Then place your hands on your heart. If you are looking to become more open hearted, use these moments to let this blend infuse into your heart’s desire.
This blend is known for its properties for energetic protection, like a bouncer for negative energy or disturbing thoughts. Place a drop of White Angelica in your left palm, rub your palms together and deeply inhale. Then gently brush your palms over the crown of your head, down your neck, shoulders, chest, torso, and all the way down your legs to your feet. Imagine this blend encasing your entire body, like a guardian shield. Again, revisit your intention for your day.
during my drive to daycare with my kids, we go over a list of things we are thankful for. we do this every single day. doing this sets a tone to be appreciative which creates happiness. this encourages us to focus on all the good in our lives.
sometimes it is simple like, I am thankful for the sun. other days we are thankful for the way a specific person was to us or for a specific thing someone did for us. the way we love someone or how lucky we are to have jobs, food to eat, shoes on our feet, friends to laugh with. you will find that in time, this list grows and becomes so much more intentional.
this is now something that I crave, like my coffee. being thankful is never a bad thing. the greatest part … my three-year-old will start the list if I don’t, he too needs and loves this exercise.
what are you thankful for?
Before I saw this post by Lindsay Teague Moreno, I had no idea what an Enneagram was. Intrigued, I looked it up and then took the test. WOW, talk about being spot on! HERE is the test I took; I highly recommend you too take it. I’d love to hear your results!